Unmasking the Paradox of Love: Exploring Romanticism and Its Impact on Happiness
It’s not enough to say that I think that this movement has made my life better today, to the same extent that it has complicated it.
I consider myself a very realistic person who always relies on reason and intellect. But I would be lying if I said that in my free time I’m not a romantic, a dreamer, a walking paradox — what else can I say?
The Tug of Realism and Romanticism: A Personal Reflection
I often wonder what the real cause of unhappiness in love is.
Why do we need to fantasize about some future events or actions that we expect from our partners instead of focusing on the present and the beautiful memories we already have?
The future should be exciting and unknown. Have I perhaps read too much poetry? Have I watched too many romantic movies? Have the things I once considered pleasures actually complicated my love life in the long run?
The life I have been dreaming about for years — precisely because of those pleasures?
Unveiling the Culprit of Unhappiness: Fantasies and Future Expectations
With expectations, we sabotage our own happiness, including that of our partner.
Have you ever met a person and, without even bothering to get to know them deeper than superficial hobbies, skipped all the flaws and virtues to create a version of that person that actually only existed in your head?
But you weren’t aware of that until the same person proved to you that reality is different.
Then you were dissatisfied because your partner didn’t meet your expectations.
Disappointed and a little hurt, you felt betrayed without realizing you’d been living in the clouds all along.
Letting Go of Past Wounds: Embracing the Present and Giving Second Chances
I guess it’s one of our “human talents” that should be appreciated, but it truly bothers me most of the time.
Especially when I hear someone compare current partners with their exes.
Just because someone has hurt you in the past doesn’t mean everyone will.
Give people a chance to show you their soul.
That’s all we need today in this rotten world.
In any case, you have the opportunity to get something positive out of it, be it happiness or a lesson. It’s up to you to choose.
We’ve become too selfish and greedy.
We feel the need to fantasize about things we will never experience and step on everyone and everything to get to the goal as soon as possible.
We are impatient and negative. Some will destroy everything around them for the love of one person, and then eventually destroy them too.
Romance or madness?
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